A divorce....., now what?
Getting divorced can be a very emotional event and worlds are turned upside down. During this emotional time adjustments have to be made and new agreements have to be negotiated about matters such as: the children, the house, savings and possibly alimony.
Emotions might get the better of you making mutual agreements that will stick. A mediator will guide you through this process and will ensure a fair and sustainable agreement.
Divorce through mediation is a better (and cheaper) alternative to using lawyers. The mediator is neutral and impartial and ensures that both your interests are taken care of.
Divorce with children
If you have decided to separate and you share children, this requires extra attention. Suddenly you are dealing with:
Parental authority
Co-parenting
Guardianship
Parenting plans
Child support
All these matters are discussed during the mediation that precedes your divorce. On these topics you will be guided in making the agreements.
The child´s best interest
Seperation of parents is a vulnerable period for children and it is important that the children have a voice. We must not forget to include them in the considerations. If there are minors involved, I will have a `child session` with them. This is an informal conversation, without the parents, in which the child is given the opportunity to express what he/she wants and how he/she prefers care and custody to be arranged. I explain that although the responsibility for any agreements regarding the future lies with the parents, the child's opinion matters.
The childsession is also confidential, unless the child clearly indicates that what has been discussed may be shared with the parents.
